How do I regain the relationship I had with my grown daughter,she don't want anything to do with me?

It sounds as if you have tried quite a bit to reconcile with your daughter.I don't know if you should give it one more try. Maybe send her one last card asking for her forgiveness and to just reconsider your relationship. I would also tell her that you will not contact her anymore and leave it up to her to make the next move. I guess you will have to give her some more time even though as her mother it will be difficult. If you have other children that you are in contact with, maybe you could visit them, and other family and friends. Overall it's a tough situation. Give your daughter her space. If there is a next time, maybe you could do some things differently yourself